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Being sick is not compatible with being a mum

Mar 28, 2016

After three days of a nasty stomach virus that devoured 4kg of my body. Of feeling sick when smelling food and being sick when having it. Of muscle pain, lethargy, headache, mild boredom and extreme weakness. Of dragging myself around the house and not being able to leave it.

I came to a conclusion.

Being sick is not compatible with being a mum. And a few other cob-web thoughts.

How do single parents do it? I was lucky that it started on a Friday night. If Alex hadn’t been there the first two days, I have no idea how I would have survived, let alone cared for my baby. This is to all the single parents out there: you rock!

Don’t you think everybody deserves somebody to hold their head on the toilet when they’re sick? Vomit is probably one of my least favourite ways of feeling sick, but I remember that when I was a kid my mum was always there holding my hair back with one hand and my forehead up with the other. I guess now I’m the one who’s going to hold my children’s head. Do I like it? I haven’t decided yet.

Forced detox is… well, forced. Not much you can do about it, really. Deliberately chosen detox is mental. How do people even think of going a week without food to lose weight? 80% good nutrition, 20% exercise. That’s how you lose weight healthily, not by doing detox.

“Look at the upside, you lost 4 kg!” There was a time I would be jumping up and down in celebration, putting on a tight dress and going party to show off my new, skinny me. Now I just  look at myself in the mirror and think, “If I get any skinnier, I won’t have any milk left in my body”. Ah, motherhood!

Back in school, I would wait for a virus like this (which equals bed, TV, sleep) all year. It was like, “Are you sick? Oh come here and give me a big hug!”. Now, I avoid people with a cold as much as vampires avoid sunlight. Vade retrum!

Not to mention that if I’m sick there’s a good chance I’ll pass it on to Oliver or, even worse, Alex (you know when they say sick men are a thorn in the flesh? If they don’t say it, I say it and it’s true!).

I guess what I’m trying to say is… I’m a super mummy, and super mummies should never get sick. This time it caught me off guard, but next time I’ll keep my shield high up.

Oh, one thing was good: the timing. This all happened just a week before our trip to Italy, so as you’re reading this I’m all well and happy, back on motherland, enjoying my hometown, my family and my all time friends with Alex and Oliver. After all, life is good. Hope you all had a lovely weekend :-)

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I write mainly about Montessori, parenthood, and multilingualism. Here are some recent posts.

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One day a few years ago my husband came home and said, "Why don't we put a mattress on the floor in the baby room? It'd be much more natural". "Never" was my reply. That's how our Montessori journey started. Since then we've been living, breathing and applying the philosophy at home day in and day out, starting from ourselves. Because educating children starts from the parents.
Terrible twos
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I'm not perfect. I'm aware
DIY yoga cards for kids
Children at the restaurant: let's recalibrate expectations
Don't ask your children to share their toys
Those "good job" that erode our children's confidence
Our Montessori birthday
Living sustainably
Living sustainably for me doesn’t only mean to have a more eco-friendly lifestyle. It means to make decisions that are sustainable for our planet, the people on it, but also for our life, our lifestyle, and our happiness. It means to take any daily chance to evolve and be happier, healthier, kinder, more responsible and more caring human beings—the only sustainable way for a meaningful future.
Face yoga is an act of self love
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Responsible eating is the diet of the future (Would you like to teach it to your kids?)
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Infographic: 8 steps to switch to cloth nappies (a guide for reluctant parents)
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Books

In 2020 I wrote 4 books for the Italian collection “Gioca and Impara con il metodo Montessori” curated by Grazia Honegger Fresco. The collection is a project by Il Corriere della Sera and La Gazzetta dello Sport.

We also implemented the workshops of the last 15 volumes of the collection with Oliver and Emily.

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I dreamed of the name La Tela di Carlotta. One morning I woke up and in my dreams I had created a blog named just like the American novel (Charlotte's Web). Many years and endless ups and downs later, this web of thoughts and stories is my work. It took me a long time to understand what kind of online presence I wanted and today I know: I'm transparent, I show real life, I don't advertise, I only recommend sustainable brands (and not only because they pay me) and I believe in the value of my blog and my courses—because if we don't believe in the value of our work, no one will believe in it for us.
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