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Common mistakes that natives make in English, Italian and Spanish

Oct 15, 2015

As a grammar lover, I do pay a lot of attention to how people in general write.

In all my three languages, there are a few recurring words that people—and I’m talking about native people here—often confuse, misspell and/or they’re just not bothered enough to write well. Truth is, it takes as long to spell right or wrong, and just a few seconds longer to check before sending. Why not do it? Let’s write well!

Of all the many mistakes that natives make when writing posts, emails, messages—also for business!—these are the ones that drive me absolutely crazy.

The contraction curse (English)

Often, we see things like C U to say See you. I personally try to avoid it, but it’s “OK”. What it’s not OK is not to use apostrophes—they exist for a reason!

  • Its VS It's.Its = possessive. This is a frittata and those are its ingredients.It's = It is. How's that cake? It's yummy!
  • They're VS Their VS There.They're = they are; I made cookies, they're delicious!Their = possessive. That's their car and this is mine.There = it refers to a place. Look at that flying donkey over there!
  • You're VS Your.You're = You are. Thank you, you're so kind.Your = possessive. Your English is very good!

The naughty accent (Italian):

This one’s a classic among Italians. Even professional writers get it wrong sometimes! If you read this, please write it correctly from now on.

  • Perché VS è The accent on perché (because/why) goes to the right; the accent on è (is) goes to the left. It's a small detail that makes a huge difference in your writing.Oggi è un bel giorno, perché c'è il sole (today it's a beautiful day, because it's sunny)

The malefic twins (Spanish)

B and V are very confusing sounds for Spaniards. It’s incredible how many people don’t hear the difference between the two (let alone write it). This is the most common mistake:

  • Haber VS A verHaber = to have in compound past. Lo siento haber tardado tanto (I'm sorry I have taken so long).A ver = Let's see (it's vamos a ver, without the "vamos" part). A ver si podemos ir (Let's see if we can go).

Bonus: The long lost accents (Spanish)

Tú VS Tu.Tú (with accent) = subject; Tú eres divertido (you are funny).Tu (no accent) = possessive; Tu casa es grande (your house is big).

Cuándo VS Cuando. All question words in Spanish get an accent in writing.Cúando vamos? Cuando llegue tu padre. (When are we leaving? When your father arrives).

If you, too, like to write well, tweet this. What are the mistakes that drive you crazy in your own language? Let me know here.

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One day a few years ago my husband came home and said, "Why don't we put a mattress on the floor in the baby room? It'd be much more natural". "Never" was my reply. That's how our Montessori journey started. Since then we've been living, breathing and applying the philosophy at home day in and day out, starting from ourselves. Because educating children starts from the parents.
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