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I'm not Wonder Woman (not always)

Dec 1, 2016

For the first time in my life they made me hang my Wonder Woman cape and I’m on bed rest. Me!

I’ve never broken a bone, been in a hospital (except when I gave birth), been sick at home for more than two days. I love to keep myself busy, to fill every minute of my day with something to do, I love plans (which usually never turn out the way I plan them, but still), meeting people and go places with Oliver. I never stop. I always think of myself as Wonder Woman.

Well, it turns out, I’m not.

Long story short, on Friday night I went to the ER because of some low abdominal pain I’d been having all week. The news weren’t bad, but not exactly good either. The baby’s head is extreeeemely low (like on-her-way-out low, which causes the pain), but she hasn’t gained much weight in the past three weeks and, even though we reached the 35th week on Tuesday and her lungs too are finally fully developed, she’s still way too small to come meet us.

None of this would be an issue if I weren’t having many (like tons of) contractions when I move around. I’m used to contractions, I’ve had them since week 20 in both pregnancies—the famous Braxton Hicks—but lately they’ve increased in length, frequency and strength… the kind of contractions that could start labour if I don’t keep them in  check.

So here I am, on the sofa, in “incubator mode” (aka couch potato), bored out of my mind, but determined to give our little girl her best shot at coming into this world ready—which means not too early, possibly around the 37th week and without needing an incubator.

You’d think it’s a great time to be productive, write a lot and get lots of projects done, but it turns out my mind needs an active body and life to feel inspired (and me wearing my Wonder Woman cape perhaps). Bohoo! So I’ll keep writing here and checking in with you, but don’t expect amazingly thoughtful posts.

I’ll tackle these posts on my to-do list one by one: what Oliver’s nursery has taught me so far, two secrets for parents to be a team again after a child, how to throw an easy baby-shower (and great gift ideas), some of Oliver’s favourite toys reviews, is it better to challenge your kids or keep them in a bubble?, baby beauty products and how I compromise…

And of course I’ll also try and finish a Montessori project that’s been on my mind (and on my desktop) for too long now.

I might be on bed rest in real life, but on La Tela I’m still Wonder Woman (or as a reader said, Wonder Sofa! Thanks, Marta! ;-) Stay tuned!

PS. Yesterday I was thinking how lucky I am… there are women who have to spend the whole pregnancy in bed, but I’ll only have to stand it for a few weeks. Also, Alex is simply amazing, and zia Cri (my Wonder Sister) came to the rescue and is doubling a bit as Cinderella, a bit as Mary Poppins, a bit as strict nurse (“drink” and “stay there” are her favourite lines) and as an Economics and Management student in her free time.

UPDATE

After a few days, we had neater scan with the gynaecologist who followed me through the whole pregnancy. The weight came up about 500g more, which made us think that the doctor at the ER had probably calculated the weight wrong that night, because the baby’s head is very low and difficult to measure. I’m still having lots of contractions (that’s just how my body works, also in the first pregnancy), but next Tuesday, December 13th, we’ll reach week 37 when the pregnancy’s considered full term, so I can start semi normal life until the little one decides to come out. (For my mum: don’t worry, I won’t put back my Wonder Woman cape until after the birth 😉)

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I write mainly about Montessori, parenthood, and multilingualism. Here are some recent posts.

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One day a few years ago my husband came home and said, "Why don't we put a mattress on the floor in the baby room? It'd be much more natural". "Never" was my reply. That's how our Montessori journey started. Since then we've been living, breathing and applying the philosophy at home day in and day out, starting from ourselves. Because educating children starts from the parents.
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Don't ask your children to share their toys
Those "good job" that erode our children's confidence
Our Montessori birthday
Two alternatives to screens that my kids love
Using fear and threats to control children is never right!
"Stop crying!" doesn't work
Living sustainably
Living sustainably for me doesn’t only mean to have a more eco-friendly lifestyle. It means to make decisions that are sustainable for our planet, the people on it, but also for our life, our lifestyle, and our happiness. It means to take any daily chance to evolve and be happier, healthier, kinder, more responsible and more caring human beings—the only sustainable way for a meaningful future.
Face yoga is an act of self love
Why you should wear the same outfit twice on Instagram
The power of creating habits (and why you should do it, even if you then break them!)
Responsible eating is the diet of the future (Would you like to teach it to your kids?)
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A personal note on social media
A change of life always widens your horizons
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We sold everything to travel the world for two years. We're currently in New Zealand.

Books

In 2020 I wrote 4 books for the Italian collection “Gioca and Impara con il metodo Montessori” curated by Grazia Honegger Fresco. The collection is a project by Il Corriere della Sera and La Gazzetta dello Sport.

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I dreamed of the name La Tela di Carlotta. One morning I woke up and in my dreams I had created a blog named just like the American novel (Charlotte's Web). Many years and endless ups and downs later, this web of thoughts and stories is my work. It took me a long time to understand what kind of online presence I wanted and today I know: I'm transparent, I show real life, I don't advertise, I only recommend sustainable brands (and not only because they pay me) and I believe in the value of my blog and my courses—because if we don't believe in the value of our work, no one will believe in it for us.
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