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I don’t want to spend my free time with other kids (moms can be honest with each other)

Feb 4, 2019

Have you ever felt like you don’t want to see or hear other babies or toddlers when yours are in school and you finally have some time for yourself?

Well, I have! And still do. And probably will until my kids will be old enough to not scream-demand my undivided attention 24/7.

It doesn’t mean that I’m not a good mother, nor that I don’t like my friend’s children, nor that I have to find excuses to ensure it doens’t happen. Us mothers can (and should) be honest with each other!

So this is for you, mama who asks me out for coffee in the morning and shows up with your toddler.

From Monday to Friday, my kids are in school in the morning. I have these four hours and ten minutes a day for myself and my work (that’s taking away the time it takes me to walk to and back from the coffee shoop where I work. And yes, I tend to run to save a few seconds!).

Four hours and ten minutes in which I try to squeeze all the email replying, the blog writing, the event organizing, the course planning that I want to get done.

Four hours and ten minutes in which I can sit down and enjoy a coffee while listening to Jason Mraz instead of Pippi Calzelunghe.

Four hours and ten minutes in which I can hear my thoughts, sometimes get lost in them, and even put them in writing.

Four hours and ten minutes in which I can even go poop by myself.

I’m happy to give some of these four hours and ten minutes up for a meaningful ADULT conversation in a place with no toys and children. For anything that doesn’t involve interruptions, tantrums or hearing my name, which is mamma nowadays, ten million times per minute.

My dear mama friend, I love you AND your kids, but next time you meet me during my four hours and ten minutes of free time, please make sure your toddler is in school (babies are welcome as they only sleep, breastfeed and and give those awwww smiles ;-).

And if you have planned to meet me, but your plans change and your toddler is with you, please give me a heads-up: I promise I won’t find excuses, I’ll simply ask you kindly and honestly, “Do you mind if we meet up another morning when we can be just us adults?”.

Thanks, I really appreciate it, and I’m looking forward to that meaningful adult coffee!

PS. This post is inspired by a real story, but in that case my friend did let me know in advance that her toddler would join us and I did ask her to postpone our coffee, which she totally understood. Because moms understand each other’s honesty!

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One day a few years ago my husband came home and said, "Why don't we put a mattress on the floor in the baby room? It'd be much more natural". "Never" was my reply. That's how our Montessori journey started. Since then we've been living, breathing and applying the philosophy at home day in and day out, starting from ourselves. Because educating children starts from the parents.
Terrible twos
The organs of the body: workshop for kids
Kids understand if you give them honesty
Bean and seed mosaic
I'm not perfect. I'm aware
DIY yoga cards for kids
Children at the restaurant: let's recalibrate expectations
Don't ask your children to share their toys
Those "good job" that erode our children's confidence
Our Montessori birthday
Living sustainably
Living sustainably for me doesn’t only mean to have a more eco-friendly lifestyle. It means to make decisions that are sustainable for our planet, the people on it, but also for our life, our lifestyle, and our happiness. It means to take any daily chance to evolve and be happier, healthier, kinder, more responsible and more caring human beings—the only sustainable way for a meaningful future.
Face yoga is an act of self love
Why you should wear the same outfit twice on Instagram
The power of creating habits (and why you should do it, even if you then break them!)
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In 2020 I wrote 4 books for the Italian collection “Gioca and Impara con il metodo Montessori” curated by Grazia Honegger Fresco. The collection is a project by Il Corriere della Sera and La Gazzetta dello Sport.

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I dreamed of the name La Tela di Carlotta. One morning I woke up and in my dreams I had created a blog named just like the American novel (Charlotte's Web). Many years and endless ups and downs later, this web of thoughts and stories is my work. It took me a long time to understand what kind of online presence I wanted and today I know: I'm transparent, I show real life, I don't advertise, I only recommend sustainable brands (and not only because they pay me) and I believe in the value of my blog and my courses—because if we don't believe in the value of our work, no one will believe in it for us.
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