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IKEA Montessori bed (big boy version)

Apr 25, 2016

When Oliver was 10 months old, along with other changes in our prepared environment (like our beloved reading corner), we decided it was time to give Oliver a big boy bed.

Until then he had slept in his smaller bed (70x160 cm)—his first Montessori bed which we had bought in IKEA and cut the legs off—and he could probably continued to sleep there for a while, but I insisted we got him a better mattress, so we changed upgraded the bed at the same time.

We were indecisive between the FJELLSE and the TARVA from IKEA, but then picked the latter (TARVA, 90x200 cm) as the big holes in the header of the FJELLSE seemed uncomfortable to us (I don’t want to say dangerous, as it’d probably be an exaggeration).

Exactly like we did with the first bed, we cut the legs off to make it a floor bed, leaving 2 cm so the carpet would fit underneath.

And after long thinking and researching, we decided on the MORGEDAL 90x200 cm mattress.

Too high?

As last time, I was worried about the height od the bed as it’s at least 10 cm higher than his previous one.

That’s why we also considered buying the reversible bed KURA (as a friend of ours did) and use it with the bed part at the top and the mattress on the floor (where the play area is supposed to be). Our friend and her daughter really like it.

It would have been a lovely solution also for when Oliver is a bit older and he can finally climb and sleep high up (I always wanted a bunk bed as a child and never had one)… and maybe with his little sibling sleeping underneath :-)

But in the end we decided to keep the bedroom “floor high”, because it felt more accessible for Oliver and less “busy”.

Oh, and once more, all the doubts about the height were completely useless: with just a little bit of practice, Oliver learnt to back off of his bed very quickly! And this is his model pose to show you his new skills…

Tell me what you think

Did you like it? Do you agree or disagree? I'd love to hear from you.


Carol • May 14, 2016

Hi Carlotta,

I just found your blog and was drawn to it when you mentioned your son's name is Oliver! My son is also an Oliver and he just turned 10 months old this month. We're a couple months behind.

We live in Seattle, but had the opportunity to go to Italy last year and I fell in love. Fun to see another Oliver on the other side of the world, growing and experiencing life.

I love your blog, reminds me things I can look forward to with my son, inspirations for our Montessori home and little glimpse of Italy.

From one mother to another, you're doing a wonderful job! I look forward to your postings. :)


🌸 Carlotta • May 17, 2016

Hi Carol,

Thanks so much for your message, it means a lot to me! I'm working hard on La Tela and loving every single second of it, so it makes me really happy to hear you like it!

If you want, you can sign up for my newsletter and receive my posts straight to your inbox once a week (Tuesday at 9am). You can also find me on Facebook and Twitter (if you use them). Please, please, please, help me spread the word!

Hugs to you and to the little Oliver on the other side of the world 🌸

PS. I'll tell you a secret, but promise not to tell anybody 😉 After 11 years of Grey's Anatomy (yep, still watching it!), I feel like I know Seattle by heart! Will have to come visit eventually…

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I write mainly about Montessori, parenthood, and multilingualism. Here are some recent posts.

Mums, dads & kids
We don't know how to be parents, we learn it everyday as we go. This is my way of motherhood, the small victories and the bitter defeats, my inconvenient truths and the endless life lessons. And also all the baby products and toys we love the most.
How to leave the playground without power struggles
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Audiobooks of real-life stories for kids
Let's not project our insecurities onto our kids
Question authorities
Parents need to be constructively selfish
One more step towards self-acceptance
When you think your marriage is over after kids.
We forgot our 10-year wedding anniversary!
One day a few years ago my husband came home and said, "Why don't we put a mattress on the floor in the baby room? It'd be much more natural". "Never" was my reply. That's how our Montessori journey started. Since then we've been living, breathing and applying the philosophy at home day in and day out, starting from ourselves. Because educating children starts from the parents.
Montessori express: change the sentences into positive
Montessori express: everything is NOT fine
My baby cries desperately in the car (15 months)
Take care of the mother behind the woman
Montessori express: ask instead of correcting
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Montessori New Year's tradition
Living sustainably
Living sustainably for me doesn’t only mean to have a more eco-friendly lifestyle. It means to make decisions that are sustainable for our planet, the people on it, but also for our life, our lifestyle, and our happiness. It means to take any daily chance to evolve and be happier, healthier, kinder, more responsible and more caring human beings—the only sustainable way for a meaningful future.
Face yoga is an act of self love
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The power of creating habits (and why you should do it, even if you then break them!)
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We sold everything to travel the world for two years. We're currently in New Zealand.


In 2020 I wrote 4 books for the Italian collection “Gioca and Impara con il metodo Montessori” curated by Grazia Honegger Fresco. The collection is a project by Il Corriere della Sera and La Gazzetta dello Sport.

We also implemented the workshops of the last 15 volumes of the collection with Oliver and Emily.


I update Instagram almost every day to be "close" to my family far away.

Why La Tela di Carlotta?
I dreamed of the name La Tela di Carlotta. One morning I woke up and in my dreams I had created a blog named just like the American novel (Charlotte's Web). Many years and endless ups and downs later, this web of thoughts and stories is my work. It took me a long time to understand what kind of online presence I wanted and today I know: I'm transparent, I show real life, I don't advertise, I only recommend sustainable brands (and not only because they pay me) and I believe in the value of my blog and my courses—because if we don't believe in the value of our work, no one will believe in it for us.
Carlotta dreaming of La Tela
I know! I don't want it to be over yet either.