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Question authorities

Oct 17, 2020

You know I'm very (infinitely) selective when it comes to doctors, because I don't think a white gown makes a good doctor.

When we have health problems, we do our research thoroughly and if it doesn’t match what doctors or paediatricians say, we question the doctor's opinion and/or get a second opinion. We believe it's our responsbility to question authorities, because unfortunately holding a title doesn’t make anybody a professional.

This spared the children a lot of unnecessary antibiotics.

It spared Oliver a catheter up his penis when a simple urine test bag was enough: I will never forget the condescending look on the paediatrician’s face – he then had to admit that *I* was right.

It spared Oliver a hand X-ray which we refused to allow for a simple falling nail with no pain in the finger: "But ma'am, do you know that holding the cell phone close to your child is more dangerous than an X-ray?", I got told by the professional that day (the worst of the worst is a professional with an ego, as it immediately escalates to abuse of power).

It spared myself more weeks in the hospital when the professionals thought an antibiotic was working – "she has no fever", they said – while they were also filling me up with painkillers (which they didn't communicate to me): I insisted that they stopped giving me painkillers and the high fever returned immediately. After a week of just waiting, this is when they realized they had to put in a thicker drainage – with more pain and more time in the hospital.  

The list could go on, but the point is: a title does't make anybody a professional. We must always be critical and inquisitive, and question authorities, especially when it's about our health.

Tell me what you think

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Podcast

On my podcast, “Educare con calma”, I talk about various topics, from Montessori to sustainability. Only in Italian!

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The blog

I write mainly about Montessori, parenthood, and multilingualism. Here are some recent posts.

Mums, dads & kids
We don't know how to be parents, we learn it everyday as we go. This is my way of motherhood, the small victories and the bitter defeats, my inconvenient truths and the endless life lessons. And also all the baby products and toys we love the most.
This is life
Audiobooks of real-life stories for kids
Let's not project our insecurities onto our kids
Question authorities
Parents need to be constructively selfish
One more step towards self-acceptance
When you think your marriage is over after kids.
Alex
We forgot our 10-year wedding anniversary!
Yoga is not only the perfection you see online
Montessori
One day a few years ago my husband came home and said, "Why don't we put a mattress on the floor in the baby room? It'd be much more natural". "Never" was my reply. That's how our Montessori journey started. Since then we've been living, breathing and applying the philosophy at home day in and day out, starting from ourselves. Because educating children starts from the parents.
Montessori express: change the sentences into positive
Montessori express: everything is NOT fine
My baby cries desperately in the car (15 months)
Take care of the mother behind the woman
Montessori express: ask instead of correcting
Montessori express: describe instead of criticising
An example of how I practice empathy with my kids
How I show empathy to my children
Happy 4th birthday, Emily
Montessori New Year's tradition
Living sustainably
Living sustainably for me doesn’t only mean to have a more eco-friendly lifestyle. It means to make decisions that are sustainable for our planet, the people on it, but also for our life, our lifestyle, and our happiness. It means to take any daily chance to evolve and be happier, healthier, kinder, more responsible and more caring human beings—the only sustainable way for a meaningful future.
Face yoga is an act of self love
Why you should wear the same outfit twice on Instagram
The power of creating habits (and why you should do it, even if you then break them!)
Responsible eating is the diet of the future (Would you like to teach it to your kids?)
The power of NOT complaining: can you do it for a whole month?
Clean up your planet, please!
Infographic: 8 steps to switch to cloth nappies (a guide for reluctant parents)
A personal note on happiness
A personal note on social media
A change of life always widens your horizons
New to La Tela?
I’ve prepared collections on various topics that I’ve written over the years. Perhaps you’ll find one that interests you.

Travel

We sold everything to travel the world for two years. We're currently in New Zealand.

Books

In 2020 I wrote 4 books for the Italian collection “Gioca and Impara con il metodo Montessori” curated by Grazia Honegger Fresco. The collection is a project by Il Corriere della Sera and La Gazzetta dello Sport.

We also implemented the workshops of the last 15 volumes of the collection with Oliver and Emily.

Instagram

I update Instagram almost every day to be "close" to my family far away.

Why La Tela di Carlotta?
I dreamed of the name La Tela di Carlotta. One morning I woke up and in my dreams I had created a blog named just like the American novel (Charlotte's Web). Many years and endless ups and downs later, this web of thoughts and stories is my work. It took me a long time to understand what kind of online presence I wanted and today I know: I'm transparent, I show real life, I don't advertise, I only recommend sustainable brands (and not only because they pay me) and I believe in the value of my blog and my courses—because if we don't believe in the value of our work, no one will believe in it for us.
Carlotta
Carlotta dreaming of La Tela
I know! I don't want it to be over yet either.