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This is life

Feb 7, 2021

Every year Martín's parents

take him by train to their grandmother

to spend the summer holidays,

and then they go back home

on the same train the next day.

One day the little boy tells his parents:

"I'm already big.

Can I go to grandma's house by myself?".

After a short conversation,

his parents agree.

They wait for the train to leave,

they say bye-bye to their son by giving him

some advice from the window,

while Martín repeats:

"I know! You've told me more than a thousand times".

When the train is about to leave

his dad whispers in his ears:

"Buddy, if you feel lonely or insecure,

This is for you!".

And he puts a piece of paper in his pocket.

Now Martin is alone,

sitting on the train just like he wanted,

without his parents for the first time.

He looks at the landscape from the window,

strangers crowd around him,

they make a lot of noise,

enter and exit the wagon.

The controller makes some comments

about the fact that Martín is alone.

A person looks at him with inquisitive eyes.

Martín feels more alone

every minute that passes.

Now he is afraid.

He lowers his head…

he feels alone and insecure,

he has tears in his eyes.

Then he remembers that his father

put something in his pocket.

With a trembling hand, he looks for it.

He finds the piece of paper and reads it.

It says:

"Martín, I'm in the last car!".

This is life,

we must let our children go,

we must trust them.

But we can always be

in the last car, observing them,

in case they are afraid or

find obstacles and don't know what to do.


I translated (and adapted) this story from Spanish, the author is unfortunately unknown, but if you know him, please write it in the comments because I would like to give him credit.

I find this story sweet and accurate. It feels exactly like the parenting I want to offer my children.

Tell me what you think

Did you like it? Do you agree or disagree? I'd love to hear from you.

Comments

yle • Feb 17, 2021

beautiful and inspiring!
just one comment: what if Martin did not get scared, and come out of the train and saw his daddy in the last car? would this lower his confidence? how to balance these considerations?
I don't have an answer here, as I would be there as well, observing from distance, and being there in case of need. But what if the child's reaction would be "why did you come? why were you there? didn't you trust me?" - sometimes you can observe without being seen, other times is more difficult: how to balance?

🌸 Carlotta • Feb 24, 2021

Thanks for your comment, it's food for thoughts. I feel there's a potential downside to everything we choose to do as parents (and as people?), I guess we can only weigh both options and go with the one that *we* feel more confident about or comfortable with. Maybe in that case, the dad could have replied "I do trust you, I trust you very much. I came only because *I* was very nervous. You know, it's the first time for me, too". Being honest is the best we can do :-)

I know! I don't want it to be over yet either.