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Thoughts about my second pregnancy — 28 weeks

Oct 12, 2016

Seven months into this second pregnancy, I feel it’s time for another one of my posts of cob-web thoughts. Right after writing it, I went back to read the one I wrote about my first pregnancy around the same time, 30 weeks… it’s funny to see how different the two experiences are and feel so far! Did you feel completely different in your second pregnancy, too?

  • I always called Oliver little monkey, but I feel like it doesn't work for Emily. So I decided that she'll be little pumpkin—nickname she got from Sara, a dance mate who said my belly looked like a small pumpkin in the show outfit :-D
  • I loved my first pregnancy, I felt so happy all the time and everything felt easy and zen. This time around, although there's still lots of happiness, there's definitely no zen whatsoever! Oliver's energy is really incompatible with mine at the moment, and everything feels harder—from bending to put him in bed when he falls asleep in my arms, to playing with him, to breastfeeding him, to run around for different activities and courses. Even Emily's unpleasant kicking and punching don't make me smile so much this time around (although when she doesn't kick for too long I can't help but worry, so… keep it coming, little pumpkin!).
  • I definitely don't want baby number 3. I always said I'd love to have three children, but I changed my mind! After Emily, I'll get my body back, I'll get into the best shape of my life and I'll enjoy my 30s being a young, cool mum, blogging and dancing my feet off! I discovered I'm quite selfish that way, so I'm pretty sure I'll resist the urge of baby-ness if it ever hits me!
  • I'm actually scared of giving birth. I was never, not even for one second, scared of giving birth to Oliver. I was looking forward to it. I didn't know what to expect, I was just curious to discover to it was all about. But now I know what to expect. And, believe me, reliving that pain actually scares me (who said women forget the pain, clearly never gave birth!). I still have my mind set on NO epidural, so I just hope it'll be as easy and quick as the first time around. Please, little pumpkin, behave!
  • In my first pregnancy, my whole body was definitely smaller at seven months (even though I have to admit it doesn't show much in the picture), so even though I'm not big now, it's definitely true that the second pregnancy shows more and sooner.
  • It might be a myth, but when they say that girls "steal your beauty" it might actually be true. When I was pregnant with Oliver, I was glowing. This time around, there's no glow, my hair's not shining and my skin's not fresh and beautiful. Damn!
  • When I was pregnant with Oliver, I didn't wear maternity clothes until the last two or three months. This time around, those ugly shorts/pants with the big waistband were all I dreamt of already at the forth month!
  • One thing never changes, though. I can't wait to meet Emily and also see if she's Finnish (another mini Alex) or Italian (a mini me)… that's the big bet at the moment around here! ;-) I bet she'll be another mini Alex! Alex thinks she'll be a mini me! You wanna join the guessing?

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I write mainly about Montessori, parenthood, and multilingualism. Here are some recent posts.

Montessori
One day a few years ago my husband came home and said, "Why don't we put a mattress on the floor in the baby room? It'd be much more natural". "Never" was my reply. That's how our Montessori journey started. Since then we've been living, breathing and applying the philosophy at home day in and day out, starting from ourselves. Because educating children starts from the parents.
Bean and seed mosaic
I'm not perfect. I'm aware
DIY yoga cards for kids
Children at the restaurant: let's recalibrate expectations
Don't ask your children to share their toys
Those "good job" that erode our children's confidence
Our Montessori birthday
Two alternatives to screens that my kids love
Using fear and threats to control children is never right!
"Stop crying!" doesn't work
Living sustainably
Living sustainably for me doesn’t only mean to have a more eco-friendly lifestyle. It means to make decisions that are sustainable for our planet, the people on it, but also for our life, our lifestyle, and our happiness. It means to take any daily chance to evolve and be happier, healthier, kinder, more responsible and more caring human beings—the only sustainable way for a meaningful future.
Face yoga is an act of self love
Why you should wear the same outfit twice on Instagram
The power of creating habits (and why you should do it, even if you then break them!)
Responsible eating is the diet of the future (Would you like to teach it to your kids?)
The power of NOT complaining: can you do it for a whole month?
Clean up your planet, please!
Infographic: 8 steps to switch to cloth nappies (a guide for reluctant parents)
A personal note on happiness
A personal note on social media
A change of life always widens your horizons
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Travel

We sold everything to travel the world for two years. We're currently in New Zealand.

Books

In 2020 I wrote 4 books for the Italian collection “Gioca and Impara con il metodo Montessori” curated by Grazia Honegger Fresco. The collection is a project by Il Corriere della Sera and La Gazzetta dello Sport.

We also implemented the workshops of the last 15 volumes of the collection with Oliver and Emily.

Podcast

On my podcast, “Educare con calma”, I talk about various topics, from Montessori to sustainability. Only in Italian!

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I dreamed of the name La Tela di Carlotta. One morning I woke up and in my dreams I had created a blog named just like the American novel (Charlotte's Web). Many years and endless ups and downs later, this web of thoughts and stories is my work. It took me a long time to understand what kind of online presence I wanted and today I know: I'm transparent, I show real life, I don't advertise, I only recommend sustainable brands (and not only because they pay me) and I believe in the value of my blog and my courses—because if we don't believe in the value of our work, no one will believe in it for us.
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