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Why we chose Baby Led Weaning (BLW)

Nov 17, 2015

On Sunday, to celebrate his 8th monthiversary, Oliver had a king’s lunch. He had tex-mex chicken wings, arrabbiata gluten-free pasta, bell pepper, tomato, cucumber, and finished off with apple. It took an hour. Nothing was pureed, he sat in his high chair, picked up everything with his own hands and chose what to eat and in what order.

I was wondering when this was going to happen, because since we started solid foods two months ago (when he was six months old) he hadn’t shown much interest in food, except for some (very) sporadic events—and cucumber, that’s always a big hit!

I wasn’t too worried, though, as I had read that Baby Led Weaning is a long and gradual process: you just have to be patient, keep trying, and giving the baby as many opportunities to eat as possible and eventually it will just happen. I’m happy to report it just happened :-)

What’s Baby Led Weaning (BLW)?

It’s an English method to introduce solid foods into the baby’s diet, in which the baby is in control of the weaning process by feeding himself.

There are many books about BLW—I read this one and enjoyed it greatly—and I recommend you read at least one before starting. There are also lots of websites that you can explore and where to find recipes.

What you’ll find on my blog is our own experience and, today, the reasons why we chose BLW to begin with.

So why did we choose Baby Led Weaning?

For three reasons:

  • Mainly, because it feels right. Choosing what feels logical and natural to us seems to be a key principle in our life-style. We chose Paleo because it feels logical that eating natural products is better than eating artificial ones. We do Montessori because it feels natural to give Oliver independence since a young age—and let’s be honest, how convenient is the floor bed? ;-)Baby Led Weaning seemed to be the natural complement to Paleo (we eat well and so will Oliver) and Montessori (what’s more independent than not been spoon-fed?).
  • I’m not in a hurry to stop breastfeeding. With Baby Led Weaning it takes a bit longer to get babies off breast milk completely and—as I've seen with many friends with older babies—by the time they're one year old they'll have probably just reduced the daily milk intake. I’m not in a hurry, I love breast-feeding and my work and lifestyle allow me to do it for as long as I want.
  • I’m not the classical Italian mamma, I absolutely hate cooking! So when I heard that I wouldn’t have had to cook different meals and puree them for Oliver, it was a dealmaker for me! And the best part is, it’s exactly like that—except a few times when we had very spicy food and cooked some chicken without salsa for Oliver, so far we never had to cook for him. This, too, feels very natural and logical.

Oliver is now trying some food at every meal (this morning he had pork sausages for breakfast) and sometimes he even eats “a lot”, and asks for more when I think he’s done!

I’m happy to see this huge progress, but it hasn’t been (and won’t be) always easy. I did have my doubts before starting it and along the way, and there have been times when I questioned the whole method—especially when Oliver went days without wanting to even try any food. I’ll tell you more about that soon :-) Stay tuned!

If you're also doing BLW, tell me your experience in a comment :-)

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I write mainly about Montessori, parenthood, and multilingualism. Here are some recent posts.

Mums, dads & kids
We don't know how to be parents, we learn it everyday as we go. This is my way of motherhood, the small victories and the bitter defeats, my inconvenient truths and the endless life lessons. And also all the baby products and toys we love the most.
How to leave the playground without power struggles
This is life
Audiobooks of real-life stories for kids
Let's not project our insecurities onto our kids
Question authorities
Parents need to be constructively selfish
One more step towards self-acceptance
When you think your marriage is over after kids.
We forgot our 10-year wedding anniversary!
One day a few years ago my husband came home and said, "Why don't we put a mattress on the floor in the baby room? It'd be much more natural". "Never" was my reply. That's how our Montessori journey started. Since then we've been living, breathing and applying the philosophy at home day in and day out, starting from ourselves. Because educating children starts from the parents.
Montessori express: change the sentences into positive
Montessori express: everything is NOT fine
My baby cries desperately in the car (15 months)
Take care of the mother behind the woman
Montessori express: ask instead of correcting
Montessori express: describe instead of criticising
An example of how I practice empathy with my kids
How I show empathy to my children
Happy 4th birthday, Emily
Montessori New Year's tradition
Living sustainably
Living sustainably for me doesn’t only mean to have a more eco-friendly lifestyle. It means to make decisions that are sustainable for our planet, the people on it, but also for our life, our lifestyle, and our happiness. It means to take any daily chance to evolve and be happier, healthier, kinder, more responsible and more caring human beings—the only sustainable way for a meaningful future.
Face yoga is an act of self love
Why you should wear the same outfit twice on Instagram
The power of creating habits (and why you should do it, even if you then break them!)
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The power of NOT complaining: can you do it for a whole month?
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Infographic: 8 steps to switch to cloth nappies (a guide for reluctant parents)
A personal note on happiness
A personal note on social media
A change of life always widens your horizons
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We sold everything to travel the world for two years. We're currently in New Zealand.


In 2020 I wrote 4 books for the Italian collection “Gioca and Impara con il metodo Montessori” curated by Grazia Honegger Fresco. The collection is a project by Il Corriere della Sera and La Gazzetta dello Sport.

We also implemented the workshops of the last 15 volumes of the collection with Oliver and Emily.


I update Instagram almost every day to be "close" to my family far away.

Why La Tela di Carlotta?
I dreamed of the name La Tela di Carlotta. One morning I woke up and in my dreams I had created a blog named just like the American novel (Charlotte's Web). Many years and endless ups and downs later, this web of thoughts and stories is my work. It took me a long time to understand what kind of online presence I wanted and today I know: I'm transparent, I show real life, I don't advertise, I only recommend sustainable brands (and not only because they pay me) and I believe in the value of my blog and my courses—because if we don't believe in the value of our work, no one will believe in it for us.
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